I used to be a wonderful mum. Honestly, really brilliant. I had all the answers. I knew what to do in any given situation. I tried to see everything through children’s eyes to see why they would respond in certain ways. I had so many ideas of fun things we could do together. I had energy and time. I could offer advice and support to friends with any parenting issue they may have. I rocked.
What changed I hear you cry…?
I had children of my own!
I know this is a common thing, we are all experts until we live the reality.
Now I’m filled with indecision, second guessing, exhaustion and bright ideas that actually weren’t so bright after all. i.e. fill the outdoor water tray with flour and water. Turns out that just makes a thick paste that is very hard to get off of walls and sofas! I used to think I would be a ‘pintrest mum’ you know the one, who does loads of crafty, baking, fun things with their children. I’m not! Although I have actually made my first batch of biscuits, admittedly they were burnt and my children didn’t actually want to them, but it’s a start.
I now meet parenting experts all the time, those who don’t have children. They too have the same enthusiasm, ideas, patience and answers I once had. I miss those self-assured, excellent parenting days!
It turns out that I am the muddling through, getting it wrong, getting it right, not always knowing what to do, easily distracted, spend too much time on my phone, try my best, kind of parent. I am as good a parent as any other. Unfortunately I’m not that perfect mum, but I am the only mum my children have and hopefully to them I am good enough.
This is so true, having your own kids is so different. We all just try our best and hope for the best
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It really is isn’t it!! I’m sure the fact that we are trying out best means it is good enough. I hope 🙂 Thank you for your comment xx
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Oh you’re so right – parenting experts everywhere! But you’re doing a great job (although, yes – sort the baking out Nigella!!! 😝)
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Haha….it’s the top of my to do list! 😉
I know. So many experts! Even the experts on TV often don’t have children themselves. xx
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Brilliant post, and so very true of all of us! Your honesty is showing!
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Thank you very much! 🙂
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You are not along, most of the time I am winging it and learning from my mistakes. It is definitely so different once you have children, it totally changes your perspective X
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It really does, doesn’t it! Thanks for reading and commenting x
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So very true, We can only do our best.
And that goes for the baking too hehe xx
Thanks for being part of #MMBC. Hope to see you next week x
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Haha…I’m working on the baking 😉
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